Throughout our experiences we always felt the assurance of our Father’s loving attentiveness even during our reluctance to obey.
We also wanted to give our children the same assurance as we began to train them.
Whatever lessons we learned were never intended to gain power over our children in order to manipulate and control their lives.
The rod, training or any form of discipline should never become license for arbitrary commands for one’s own benefit nor should the home become authoritarian, cold or militant. Of all the places on this earth’s troubled globe, home must become that place where a child knows throughout his life he will always find unconditional support, love and forgiveness . . .a refuge where his heart, mind and hopes can find full expression. . . .
A place of pleasant histories where his soul has become a storehouse full of good memories and gratefulness for his parents’ loving and gentle care. – A.
Fabrizio “For I know him (Abraham), that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment: that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.” – Genesis 18:19 . . .
To bless him and make him a blessing. Written September, 1968. Not long ago our three and a half year old son prayed, “Lord, help me to look at Your eyes and do what You say.” I thought how beautifully he expressed Psalm 32:8,9, “I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go: I will guide you with my eye.
Be not as the horse, or as the mule which have no understanding: Whose mouth must be held in with bit and bridle.” This is the kind of response we desire from our own lives towards God . . .
Not as the mule with no understanding, needing to be jerked about from one direction to another; but a heart submission that has already decided to obey and merely waits to be guided with His eye.
We pray for this quality of obedience for ourselves and also for our children. Any victory which God has given in our experience has come as we have been brought to the end of ourselves in failure and defeat.
And then He has taken over and done the work in us.
There is no other area in our lives where we are more completely cast in dependence on the Lord than with our children. Training is More than Teaching In Proverbs 22:6 God promises, “Train up a child in the way he should go: And when he is old he will not depart from it.” There is a distinction between training and teaching.
Many of us are teaching our children the way they should go, but are neglecting to train them in the way they should go.
A child can be trained to respond to his parents in willing obedience and trust. The dictionary gives the meaning of the word train . . . “to mold the character, instruct by experience, drill, to make obedient to orders, to put or point in an exact direction, to prepare for a contest.” This is what God wants us to do with our children. All Parents Train their Children All of us are training our children in some way . . .
Either consciously or unconsciously.
When we have asked our child to do something, we are training him to wait until we have told him twice before he obeys . . .
Or we are training him to wait until we have raised our voice before he obeys . . .
Or we are training him to wait until we have threatened him before he obeys.
We can train him to obey immediately when we have said it once in a normal conversational tone. The child who is only taught “the way he should go” can hear other teaching and depart.
But the promise to the parent who trains his child is, “WHEN HE IS OLD, HE WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT.” Here are two examples in Scripture; one in which the child was trained the way he ought to go and the other example, two brothers who were taught the way they ought to go, but not trained. In 1 Samuel 1:11, Hannah asked the Lord for a son.
She prayed, “Give me a son, Lord, and I will give him back to you.” She did not say, “Lord, if you will give me a son I will do my best to teach him to serve you and if he is willing and won’t object, I will take him up to the temple to serve You.” No, she never doubted that Samuel would do anything else but what she chose for him. 1 Samuel 1:27 says, “For this child I prayed: And the Lord has given me my petition which I asked of Him: Therefore I lent him to the Lord; As long as he lives he shall be lent to the Lord.
And he worshiped the Lord there.” Samuel did go to the temple and was a willing servant to Eli, the priest.
That Samuel had been trained to obey is evident in 1 Samuel 3 when, as a young boy, three times he gets out of bed to run to Eli and ask him what he wants.
And he served God as long as he lived.
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